Society today can be pretty sad....and a tough place to be if you're trying to "rise above" the standard. Somehow (even though I feel like there is are a ton of "love everyone/peace" activists around) it seems like our culture has slipped into tearing people down as a norm. Since when did we decide we were monkeys? (FYI - if you're not sure what I'm talking about check out THIS experiment)
What I have a really hard time understanding is WHY? There is no personal gain in tearing someone else down, or criticizing their endeavors. I am obviously not talking about constructive criticism or even well-meant cautions, but rather about striking out at what someone else is doing for the sole purpose of causing pain or "knocking them down a peg".
It seems like society should have advanced past this low behavior (please refer back to the monkey experiment).....we have had plenty of advice against it over the years:
"He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone" -John 8:7 (Jesus)
"People who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones"
C'mon guys, just don't do it! Now, I'm not the "let's just all get along and love everyone and then everyone can live in sunshine and rainbows" kinda gal (not that I'm opposed to this idea, I just know it's not completely realistic) but I do think we as a culture should work on it.
Why do we "throw stones"? What is the purpose? When did we decide that keeping someone else knocked down so we didn't feel so bad about our own state was better than trying to help raise each other up?!
We live in a hyper-connected society, where everyone can see what everyone else is doing, literally 24/7. It's weird. And it's a relatively new thing for humans...and I'm hoping we are just dealing with some growing pains as far as how we deal with how easy it is to see everyone's dirty laundry.
People who don't even know you are just waiting to see you mess up.....
Tell me that's not disturbing.
The thing I've noticed, though, is that the stones never seem to come from ABOVE
The attacks are, almost 100% of the time, from below. People trying to keep you down.
Really this whole post is just to say - please be aware. Culture is leading us to be attackers, to pull people down and discourage. STOP! "We rise by lifting others" - Robert Ingersoll.
Let's try to be better, as a society. I don't care if you're a Christian, Muslim, Atheist, or whatever the heck else there is to be, this is not a religious behavior....it SHOULD be a human moral. Let's reintroduce our culture to encouragement......it certainly isn't going to hurt anything to try.
<3 an eternal Optimist
After spending the time we did in Charleston we were really struggling with being "unbiased" about our visit to Savannah - we'd basically already settled on Charleston without even getting down to our previous 1st choice....BUT....we tried. (Spoiler alert: we picked Charleston)
Our first night in Savannah we stayed at The Brice, a Kimpton Hotel. It was gorgeous.
If you can't tell, the place is seriously amazing! (And, like all Kimpton's, it's pet friendly!) When we arrived the lady who checked us in told us that apparently it was the Vice-President of the company's birthday, and he was touring this particular property.....so free drinks and music for everyone staying for a few hours! Score.
Can you spot the difference in our room??? :-)
After we got settled into our room (and played a bit of "hide-and-seek") we headed down to the hotel bar for our free drinks, then out to the gorgeous courtyard for music.
We really enjoyed listening to the City Hotel Band, a great little bluegrass group, in the courtyard, and hung out for quite some time before heading to explore Savannah.
The Brice (our hotel) is on the far end of Bay Street, and we were thinking we'd walk all the way up to Forsyth Park, so we had quite a hike ahead of us.
There were some very pretty streets in the historic district (honestly the only ones I photographed) but then about every other block there were areas that we weren't really comfortable walking through near dark....unlike in Charleston where we were quite comfortable the whole time. The historic district, however is amazing.
There is a park almost every other block through the historic district, it's amazing. They all have different plant life, and different memorials, etc. We strolled (as slowly as we could manage...which isn't very...) through them, and if we could move the parks to Charleston it would literally be the perfect city.
The sun was on it's way down, so we headed down towards the river (River St. actually) to see the sunset on the water.
The sunset on the river was actually really beautiful, and since we were just south of the container port and the bridge we got some awesome silhouette views of their structures.
We packed up all of our things (including the bottle of wine I bought at dinner....essential) and went to find a good place for brunch. There were a few places we found on Yelp that looked good, but when we walked by them there were already lines around the block...and we were hungry and impatient.
We crossed back down to River St. and actually found the best little brunch place in the Bohemian Hotel, called Rocks on the River.
Our food was delicious, Perfect. BUT - we forgot that laws in the south aren't quite the same as back home, and that perfect Bloody Mary or Mimosa we were looking forward to wasn't going to be an option until after 12....and we weren't quite that patient. So OJ it was.
We really did try to give Savannah a chance, but unfortunately Charleston was just too awesome. I already gave away our decision...but over brunch we settled on Charleston for sure.
Since we really didn't need to research areas to live we ended up driving over to a historic graveyard to see what was supposed to be cool Gothic style monuments, etc. It wasn't that exciting, but there were still some cool areas.
Our mini-moon was great, it was fun (as usual) to explore new cities, and we are SO excited for moving day to arrive!
Until our next adventure <3
When you're moving you've gotta have options.....for us those options have been (painfully and slowly) narrowed down to two: Charleston, SC & Savannah, GA.
My husband and I didn't go on a honeymoon for a couple of different reasons, (partially because paying for a wedding wiped out our honeymoon fund) one being that we needed to explore the places we plan to move to! With all the other traveling we're doing this summer it was tough to fit in, but we were able to take a 4 day research trip!
We flew in and out of Savannah, GA - so the first day (Thursday) was basically air travel, and then driving up to Charleston, SC.
I've gotta be honest - at this point in the trip I was pretty much settled on Savannah, only because of it's placement right on I-95, and the fact that it's right in between Florida & South Carolina - but Dave was pretty set on Charleston....so driving there first was a really mostly to appease him. (Don't tell him I said that).
We our first night at the Courtyard Marriott in the historic district basically just because it was a self-park, and Dave hates valet parking....but it was probably the best thing we could have done, because their concierge is AMAZING! If you ever take a trip down there and want a place to stay, I'd suggest this place. Not because the hotel is amazing (it's nice, don't get me wrong, but it's basically the same as every other Marriott) but because you'll get some awesome insights into the city through the concierge.
Through the concierge we ate dinner at a great place called Coast - the food was good, but our favorite part was the building! (We're nerds....)
The concierge also set us up on a great historical walking tour of the city with a guide named Tommy Dew....literally the best tour I've ever been on. It was a little longer than 90 minutes, and he gave us an AWESOME history of the city and the south in general.
Since both Dave and I are history nerds (as mentioned above...) :-) we probably enjoyed the walking tour of Charleston more than any other part of our trip, which is saying a lot! We took tons of photos, and thankfully the weather was beautiful, we weren't really too hot until the very end of the tour.
The walking tour ended at the battery wall (and unfortunately so do my photos of Charleston) so Dave and I decided to head back to get our car and go see the local beaches. FYI, the local beaches are BEAUTIFUL. I left my camera in our hotel room when we went so I can't share the beauty yet, but after this visit I think we were both about 90% on board that Charleston (already) won the "where shall we move" competition.....so I'm sure I'll have more soon.
We had a free afternoon, and since it was pretty hot (hot for Maine, it was probably 90) I wanted to be on the water. I love the water. Any form really...give me a lake, the ocean, a pool, even a swim-able river and I'm a happy girl.
My lovely friend Lacey, and my sister Megan were both free also, so Lacey recommended heading down to a spot in Surry, ME on Newbury Neck Rd. where there's a perfect little beach that most people don't know about. It's on Union River Bay, so the water is pretty calm and much warmer then the nearby ocean.
The beach is actually all small rocks and pebbles, so don't head down expecting sand. You may, however, find some seaglass! We sat on our towels sunbathing for approximately 5 minutes before we had to get in the water. Pebble beach + 90 degrees = SWEAT.
We headed into the water (word of warning....it is a bit slimy in the water since there aren't ocean waves & strong tides in this section) and had a great dip. We saw SO MANY crabs! They are the craziest little beasts to watch. There were several hermit crab fights, and then some other little crabs (not sure their type) joined in the fights. Entertaining to say the least!
We hung out at the beach for a little while....probably only an hour or so...and then we decided to go looking for somewhere to eat lunch/dinner. Perry's Lobster Shack was right on the beach with us, but we wanted a sit-down-serve-us-a-cold-beer type restaurant.
We packed up and drove the rest of the Newbury Neck road, just to enjoy the gorgeous day (and the A/C in the car) and then headed towards Ellsworth to get something to eat. We tried to eat at a place on the water in Surry, but we hit them right when their kitchen was closed to get ready for a show that night.
We got stuck in the only traffic possible......Rt. 1A....so it took us about an hour to get to our "lunch", the only saving grace was that it was a dead time of the day and our food arrived pretty quick!
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