Society today can be pretty sad....and a tough place to be if you're trying to "rise above" the standard. Somehow (even though I feel like there is are a ton of "love everyone/peace" activists around) it seems like our culture has slipped into tearing people down as a norm. Since when did we decide we were monkeys? (FYI - if you're not sure what I'm talking about check out THIS experiment)
What I have a really hard time understanding is WHY? There is no personal gain in tearing someone else down, or criticizing their endeavors. I am obviously not talking about constructive criticism or even well-meant cautions, but rather about striking out at what someone else is doing for the sole purpose of causing pain or "knocking them down a peg".
It seems like society should have advanced past this low behavior (please refer back to the monkey experiment).....we have had plenty of advice against it over the years:
"He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone" -John 8:7 (Jesus)
"People who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones"
C'mon guys, just don't do it! Now, I'm not the "let's just all get along and love everyone and then everyone can live in sunshine and rainbows" kinda gal (not that I'm opposed to this idea, I just know it's not completely realistic) but I do think we as a culture should work on it.
Why do we "throw stones"? What is the purpose? When did we decide that keeping someone else knocked down so we didn't feel so bad about our own state was better than trying to help raise each other up?!
We live in a hyper-connected society, where everyone can see what everyone else is doing, literally 24/7. It's weird. And it's a relatively new thing for humans...and I'm hoping we are just dealing with some growing pains as far as how we deal with how easy it is to see everyone's dirty laundry.
People who don't even know you are just waiting to see you mess up.....
Tell me that's not disturbing.
The thing I've noticed, though, is that the stones never seem to come from ABOVE
The attacks are, almost 100% of the time, from below. People trying to keep you down.
Really this whole post is just to say - please be aware. Culture is leading us to be attackers, to pull people down and discourage. STOP! "We rise by lifting others" - Robert Ingersoll.
Let's try to be better, as a society. I don't care if you're a Christian, Muslim, Atheist, or whatever the heck else there is to be, this is not a religious behavior....it SHOULD be a human moral. Let's reintroduce our culture to encouragement......it certainly isn't going to hurt anything to try.
<3 an eternal Optimist
I am a new fan of goal-setting. I think this is mostly thanks to my fiance who has forced me to listen to multiple lectures and books on the subject (speaking of which, I'll give a list of some of my favs. at the end of this post) and also made me sit down and write out 50 personal goals.
Currently two things I'm working on in my personal life and also for my business development are:
#1. Being accountable (to myself first) to keeping my plans
#2. Getting my head a little more organized and putting my thoughts on paper.
*"Smart people underperform because they fail to prioritize"
A great friend of mine pointed me in the direction of one tool I've been loving lately for my nutrition & fitness goals - the FitBook!
She and I have been using the fitbook for about 6 weeks now and I love it. It has been a learning curve to remember to actually keep this with me and write down everything I do (or don't do....) but I've found it has become easier as I go. The book has a place for me to set goals, record current weight/measurements/etc. and also space for recaps! I'm attempting to get better at planning - it is a new thing for me.....which as I type out I realize how sad that is to say.
This "planning struggle" leads me to my next new tool: the Passion Planner. I just ordered one a few weeks ago, and today I did the very first exercise!
I'm really excited to stretch my comfort zone and stay accountable to goalsetting & PLANNING through this awesome (and how pretty!?) new book. (fyi, just posting a photo of something I've written in is a comfort zone stretch for me) I am working right now on the "mind map" section of the planner....I think it's exactly what I needed to start getting my MIND MAPPED.
I promise I'll update again once I've had a chance to get started with using the Passion Planner more in depth.
Another resource I've been loving lately is Marie Forleo of Marie TV. She is a business woman who posts videos with TONS of interviews, Q&A sessions, and personal development guides. She did a video a little while ago called "Why Smart People Underperform" and it addresses almost everything I have just been talking about.
Isn't she awesome?! I've been subscribing to her YouTube channel for a few months now, and I've gotten so much great information!
As promised, here is a list of the books & speakers that my fiance shared with me:
I hope some of these are helpful to someone else besides just me! So far I've been able to (pretty much) squash my procrastination struggle, and I'm getting so much closer to actually achieving some of my goals than I ever was before I started actually writing them down and keeping track of them.
Happy "Success-Planning" <3
Dreamer, decorator, wife, business owner, personal fitness trainer. 20-something.